• Heather Oglesby

Into the unknown

A large portion of people sang that title in their head, and to be fair I did when I wrote it so no judgement here (naturally).


I’ve been thinking about that feeling of fear verses excitement when you do something new for the first time; it is going into the unknown and depending on how often we do it we can find ourselves shying away from it as fear overtakes any desire to explore, “I'm afraid of what I'm risking if I follow you into the unknown”.


I ask in every first session if that person has ever had counselling before, and if they haven’t there is a chance for exploration of that, and a chance to dispel any stereotypes or expectations that movies and tv may have led them to believe, (I do wonder if there will ever be a completely accurate movie depiction of good therapy). It can be scary sitting in a room with a relative stranger and opening up about your life, that’s why the attunement of client and counsellor and the relationship that can build from that is so important.


Doing new things can also be exciting, pushing yourself to see what you can do, diving into experiences with open arms and being ok with whatever outcome, “Don't you know there's part of me that longs to go into the unknown”. Recently I did something new that had consequences and I felt a mixture of nerves and anticipation, so I chose to reframe it into an exciting new challenge and now I feel ready to face that challenge, to go into the unknown.



Something to ponder: When was the last time you went into the unknown?